Past News and Announcements


An Interview with new GSC Director Laura Haave

By Garrett Hoffman '08 

1. Tell me a little bit about yourself and your path to Carleton. 

I attended a small liberal arts college as an undergraduate (St. John’s College in Annapolis, MD, which is even smaller than Carleton – only 400 students!). That environment was really important to my development, so I’m excited to have an opportunity to come back to it as a staffperson. I have a master’s degree in public health and have worked on college campuses as a sexuality educator and sexual violence survivor advocate for about fifteen years; I was very excited about joining the Gender and Sexuality Center because it combines all my work and passions into one job. I first visited Carleton about eight years ago when Kaaren Williamsen brought me to campus to lead a training about Our Whole Lives, a sexuality education curriculum that I co-authored, and I have secretly been hoping to return ever since. I am so impressed with everything that Kaaren and the Gender and Sexuality Center Associates have built.  

2. Can you briefly talk about your vision for the GSC in the coming years? 

We are fortunate now to have two full-time staffpeople in the GSC – myself and Tegra Straight, our first Assistant Director. Tegra was previously an Area Director at Carleton who had a part-time collateral position with the GSC for a few years, so I’m lucky to have her experience and knowledge as we begin to discuss the future of the GSC. I’ve only been here for seven months, so I think it’s a bit early to say that I understand Carleton’s culture and what students need from the GSC. However, next year, Tegra and I are planning to launch a bystander intervention program to prevent sexual violence at Carleton with the help of students and many other departments on campus. We would also like to implement an LGBTQ ally training program for faculty and staff so that they can better support students, and we’re compiling a list of best practices for serving transgender students on campus and identifying areas where Carleton needs to improve. We plan to keep well-loved programs like Doing It Right and the Rainbow Retreat, of course!  

3. What is your favorite thing about Carleton so far?

My favorite thing so far is how quickly new ideas are adopted compared to other campuses I’ve worked at. This isn’t universally true, of course, but I’ve been surprised at how many times a student has suggested a change to a program or I’ve asked, “Have we thought about doing it this way?” and people enthusiastically say, “Let’s try it!” Change is often a frightening prospect, so it’s nice to see that it’s embraced at Carleton. Students, faculty and staff seem willing to try new things and are unafraid to make mistakes and learn from them.  

4. You can have lunch with three people of your choosing, alive or dead. Who would you choose? 

I would love to talk to my maternal great-grandmother, Laura Beatrice Haave, my paternal grandmother, Signe, and my own mother when they were all the age that I am now. My great-grandmother Laura emigrated to the US from Norway and my grandmother Signe emigrated from Sweden, and my mom and I have spent a fair amount of time over the past couple of years tracing our genealogy, going through old family photos, and visiting our family’s hometown in Norway. This has generated a lot of questions about our family history, and I’d love to sit down with these three women from my family and share stories.  

5. What is your favorite dinner spot in Northfield? 

I am a vegetarian, and my partner has ulcerative colitis, which means no sugars, starches or grains. There aren’t a lot of restaurants in town where we can both eat, so I’d have to say that our favorite dinner spot is our house on the East Side, and I’m very grateful for Just Food Co-op and the farmer’s markets in town that give us access to the foods we need.   

6. Anything else you think alumni should know about you and your vision for your time at Carleton?

The GSC wouldn’t exist without alumni support and advocacy, so I’m very grateful for that. We have two full-time staff and 12 part-time student staff in the GSC, which is amazing for a college of Carleton’s size. You can’t do work without the right people. Our program budget is limited, though (like all budgets – we don’t have an infinite amount of resources!), and there are continually increasing unfunded mandates on all colleges and universities to devote substantial resources to sexual violence prevention and response. Tegra and I will be thinking carefully over the summer about how we can use what we have in the most effective ways possible to truly create change on campus, and I hope that alumni will stay involved in that conversation and give us their insights and perspectives. 


An LGBTQ History Reading List

By Kristian Taketomo '11 

This spring, I will be taking my qualifying exams in American History. What better time to put together a reading list of my favorite LGBTQ books? If you’re looking for something to read, here are a few recommendations:  

1. Chauncey, George. Gay New York: Gender, Urban Culture, and the Making of the Gay Male World, 1890-1940. New York: Basic Books, 1994. 

George Chauncey’s Gay New York is one of the best books out there. Period. Lauded by many as having one of the best introductions in any academic book, this foundational LGBTQ history should have you hooked within the first few pages. Though this book, which traces the invention of the “closet,” came out over 20 years ago, it remains a classic. Chauncey has been promising a follow-up to Gay New York for years now. Get your hands on a copy* before part two comes out! 

* This books is a serious doorstop, so this might be one for your e-reader.   

2. Kunzel, Regina. Criminal Intimacy: Prison and the Uneven History of American Sexuality. Chicago, IL: University of Chicago Press, 2008.  

Interested in the carceral state? Interested in the policing and pathologizing of “deviant” sexuality? Have I got the book for you. Regina Kunzel’s Criminal Intimacy explores the relationship between the modern prison system and American sexuality. Like Chauncey, Kunzel explores the construction and meanings of queer identity. This is very accessible book, but also must-read for anyone who loves or hates Foucault.  

3. Howard, John. Men Like That: A Southern Queer History. Chicago, IL: University of Chicago Press, 1999. 

John Howard’s Men Like That is a case-study of same-sex desire in twentieth century Mississippi. While many of the LGBTQ histories that preceded Howard’s looked to cities as sites of sexual activity and identity-making, Howard situates his history of queer networking in the rural South. This is a great book for anyone interested in queer theory, spatial theory, or Southern culture.   

4. Canaday, Margot. The Straight State: Sexuality and Citizenship in Twentieth-Century America. Princeton, NJ: Princeton University Press, 2009. 

The Straight State is a high political history of sexuality. In this book, Margot Canaday asks how the American federal government regulated sexuality through immigration, military, and welfare policy. She asks how LGBTQ people became “second-class citizens” in the eyes of the state. Queer lawyers love this book!   

5. Murray, Heather. Not in This Family: Gays and the Meaning of Kinship in Postwar North America. Philadelphia, PA: University of Pennsylvania Press, 2010.  

Heather Murray’s Not in This Family probes the interrelationship between the institution of the family and LGBTQ life in the United States and Canada since World War II. Murray seeks to challenge the dominant narrative that all LGBTQ people have had strained family relationships. Moreover, she expands the definition of “kinship” in intriguing ways. Pick up a few copies for your “chosen family.” 

Can’t get enough? Here are two more titles for the speed readers out there:

Christina Hanhardt, Safe Space: Gay Neighborhood History and the Politics of Violence. Durham, NC: Duke University Press, 2013. 

Salamon, Gayle. Assuming a Body: Transgender and Rhetorics of Materiality. New York: Columbia University Press, 2010. 


May 1, 2015

By Christi Conkling '09

I am a team manager at Bottom Line, a national college access nonprofit. We serve thousands of low-income, first-generation college students each year in our high school and college programs. My team works with our high school seniors, helping guide them through the college application and financial aid processes so that they can make a responsible choice in where to attend college by that looming May 1 deadline. It's certainly not an easy process for the most resourced teens, and the queer teens in our program have many hurdles in front of them.

Unlike Carleton, many colleges have fledgling LGBTQ Centers and support on campus. One college in my area of MA can't publicize the meeting location of their student group for fear of harassment, and they have no dedicated staff to support students. As I work with seniors each year, I am both excited about and worried for my queer students' experiences at their future colleges.

Jack, one of my students, came out to me this year about 15 minutes before submitting his college applications. He wanted to write something in the "additional information" section of the Common App explaining why his grades dropped a little at the end of 10th grade. After a family altercation, his cousin outed him, and his extended family who he relied on for support shunned him for months. Because he trusted me, I've now been better able to advise him on his college list, and we've taken time to research the climate for queer students at the schools to which he's applied. He was recently invited to apply for a summer academic bridge program at a prestigious business school where the admissions office places a noticeable emphasis on creating a welcoming environment. It may be a perfect fit for him.

Eddie, another of our current students, moved to Boston from Vietnam a few years ago. He is a budding tattoo artist hoping to study art in college, and he is a young trans man who is a leader in the JROTC program in his school. This year we are helping him to navigate the complications that arise when the sex on your birth certificate does not match your gender. We'll help him make phone calls to admissions and financial aid offices to match his applications, and we will help him communicate his gender to the college he ultimately chooses to attend so that he has fewer obstacles when he enrolls. Unlike Jack, the local college he would love to attend has fewer resources to support students, but I am confident that Eddie will thrive despite the challenged he will face.

As I work with the high school seniors in our program each day, I become more and more thankful and impressed by the work that Carleton and this OAC community have done. And though we've never had a senior apply to or get into Carleton (our Chicago office has its first class this year), I am excited for more colleges to continue to build their support of LGBTQ students.

OAC Student Representative Blog Post (Will Sheffer '15) -From Carleton With Love

Hi, It’s Will writing about 10th week at the GSC. I’m a senior Art History major and a European Studies and Women and Gender Studies concentrator and I work in the Gender and Sexuality Center. I’m from New Hampshire and I’m happy to serve as the senior student representative on the Out After Carleton Leadership Committee. It’s been a blast so far and I can’t wait for our family reunion April 30th through May 3rd!

Back to the GSC, as the term comes to a close so has our programming. We tend to avoid programming in these last couple of weeks because Carls get stressed and are less likely to turn out. However, a couple programs usually slip through the cracks and end up scheduled for this half week and reading days. For instance, our conclusion to the GSC’s celebration of Trans* Month of Awareness is a celebration of Trans* Day of Remembrance on November 20th. On this Thursday, Skinner Memorial Chapel will be set up for our yearly vigil. The GSC encourages members of the Carleton community to visit, light a candle, and reflect on trans* lives lost over the years. Please visit the International Trans* Day of Remembrance website for more information. Personally, it is one of my favorite events that the GSC puts on as I find it to be a simple yet incredibly powerful gesture. It is an excellent culmination to our month of programming.

The end of the term also brings one of my favorite GSC traditions, our end of term dinner. It is a great time to reflect on the programming that we have done and discuss changes that we’d like to see in the future. This time around the staff is heading to our director’s, Laura Haave, house. The staff is very excited to taste her risotto and meet her cat (Agent Natasha Meowmanoff).  But more importantly, we have a very exciting term to reflect on. We’ve had some really incredible programming opportunities ranging from hosting nationally acclaimed bisexual activist Robyn Ochs to leading a small discussion on Carleton’s involvement with the White House’s latest initiative to end sexual violence, It’s On Us, and many more. Some very successful programs include our termly Healthy Communities and Relationships Dinner (this term we discussed romantic and sexual narratives) and an event organized by Women’s Awareness House, Porn and Pad Thai, where participants watched a variety of porn clips and discussed representation and its implications in pornography.

On top of thinking about how these events shaped our term we will also be looking forward to next term, where big stuff lies ahead. Second weekend the GSC is leading its annual Rainbow Retreat at Camp Pepin, a two-day retreat based on LGBTQA community building. Additionally, in February, we’ll be joining the One Billion Rising Revolution in our production of the Vagina Monologues. Perhaps, most importantly, the staff will talk about our approach to these topics and how we hope to grow in the coming term. It will be nice to spend time with the staff and have a chance to discuss what went well and how we can see things going better in the future. Additionally, we hope to continue our goals of looking outward and considering how the Gender and Sexuality Center can engage with broader topics outside of Carleton.

That’s all for now, if you have any questions feel free to e-mail me at!

OAC Student Blog Post (Elly Fireside-Ostergaard '16) -From Carleton With Love

Hello, Elly here! I’m writing about 9th week in the Gender and Sexuality Center. I’m a junior biology major, women and gender studies concentrator, and Gender and Sexuality Center Associate. I hail from San Francisco, CA and am the 2016 representative on the Out After Carleton Leadership Committee. It has been so fun planning the reunion and hopefully we’ll see you there! It’s taking place from April 30th to May 3rd.

9th week marked the beginning of our celebration of Trans* Month of Awareness. Throughout the month, we are hosting events and workshops centered around gender identity and trans* issues. We kicked off the month with a Gender Brunch! Sitting around the living room of the Queers & Allies house, a group of Carls discussed gender identity and expression over freshly baked cinnamon rolls. We ended the general discussion with a brainstorming session about events people wanted to see. Later in the week, we hosted GSCA office hours in Sayles. During lunch time on Tuesday and Wednesday, myself and other GSCAs sat at a table in Sayles handing out gender pronoun cards, GSC publications, and informational materials for Trans* Month of Awareness. We also provided students with an anonymous question box where they could write any and all questions they had related to gender. We got some excellent questions about gender pronoun usage and more that we will answer on a segment of our weekly radio show, GSC after hours. I think my personal favorite of all the events we’ve hosted for Trans* month of awareness was Gender 101. Usually, gender 101 is a workshop that RAs can bring to their floors. It covers all of the basics about the differences between sex and gender and provides fundamental terminology to talk about gender while still leaving room for participants to reflect on their own gender identity and expression. This week, however, we brought Gender 101 out of the dorms and into the general student community. Open to faculty, staff, and students, Gender 101 in Sayles was very fun and informative. I loved sitting in a room with people of all different levels of gender literacy and hearing thoughts from people like Laura Haave, director of the GSC, as well as Freshmen in their first term at Carleton. We also had pizza, which makes everything better!We’ve had a great term overall in the GSC, and, despite it being 9th week, we still have events coming up! Look out for another exciting GSC update next week! If you have any questions about the GSC, life at Carleton, or more, shoot me an email at Elly

Profile of OAC member and past Pride Banquet Speaker: Danny LaChance

By Naomi Siegal ‘80
One of the things that the OAC Leadership committee does is hold a yearly meeting on campus each spring. Since April is Pride Month at Carleton, we get to participate in some great GLBT activities. One of the highlights of Pride Month is the annual Pride Banquet. This is a celebration highlighting GLBT life on campus and recognizing the graduating seniors who have been active in the campus GLBT community. It also features a keynote speech from a recent graduate who can come back and tell students what it is like to continue GLBT life off campus. In an effort to share some of the energy of Carleton Pride with you, we will highlight one of these recent grads and their speech in each newsletter. The pride banquet speaker in April 2009 was Danny LaChance. Danny graduated from Carleton with an English major in 2001. Danny describes the campus he first came to as not hostile, but not particularly comfortable for GLBT students. He feels that in his freshman year there were very few out men on campus. There were more lesbians, but he remembers a very ill-attended coming-out rally and feels there was not a critical mass of students willing to be out. There was a queer political group, but no active support groups for students coming out. Danny was active in theater, wrote for the Carletonian and tutored prisoners at the Faribault medium security prison in reading skills. Danny was in the midst of his coming out process when the first Family reunion took place. He mentions that the 4 years he was on campus were a sea-change for the Carleton community. By the time he graduated there were 15 to 20 men out on campus and there were many more activities and choices for GLBT students. For example, there were both social and political groups focused on GLBT life and issues. As Danny mentions in his speech, he spent his first years after graduation teaching in a school with absolutely no queer presence. He now teaches in a school in NY that includes Tony Kushner and the Laramie Project in its curriculum. In between he has earned a PhD (all but dissertation) in American Studies. His dissertation topic is looking at the use of the Death penalty and its relationship to American Culture. He interviewed jurors in death penalty cases and is connecting their thinking about justice and the messages they’ve received about the use of punishment as a response to social problems. Danny’s style is all about finding connections between thought and culture. His present teaching position includes a course that is team taught between the English and History departments, working to help the students contextualize culture, history and literature to form a broader understanding of culture and movements. As you can see from his speech, Danny carries this way of thought into his own life as a GLBT person. Questioning the orthodoxy of liberal thought that he experienced on campus, contrasting with the more intellectual or radical analysis that he developed in graduate school. From his current vantage point he describes his time at Carleton as socially supportive, but politically homogeneous and he wonders if this is because of an absence of course work that question issues of identity and if there is movement toward a more rigorous intellectual analysis in the structure of the curriculum. Danny’s Speech Thank you very much. Thank you, Kaaren and OAC for asking me here this evening to speak to graduating seniors. I taught high school English for a number of years, and it was always interesting to me to teach The Great Gatsby, a book that is all about how we come to terms with our past, the expectations and hopes that we had years ago--and the conflicting desire to recapture our past while striving for the future we once imagined for ourselves. I hated Gatsby as a high schooler and one of the reasons, I think, was that, when you’re in high school, you don’t have much of a past. You sometimes have to work inordinately hard to get high schoolers to at least respect the book. “They just don’t get it,” one of my colleagues once said to me. “I mean it’s a book all about your past. Their past is, like, the fifth grade.” Now that I’m older and have a past, I’ve come to love The Great Gatsby. And I’ve come to gain some perspective on my experience at Carleton and, in particular, on the coming out process I experienced while I was at Carleton. As I look back, I’m struck not by a sense of nostalgia at my own innocence, or pride in the memory of coming into my own as a person, or a Gatsby-like desire to recapture my first love. In fact, when I look at the past, I am struck by how absolutely ridiculous I was. Let me set the coming out scene a little. When I was a sophomore, Carleton did not yet have a Gender and Sexuality Center, Kaaren had yet to be hired, and there were no coming out support groups. Luckily, I had found a counselor at the Wellness Center who had listened to me talk at our weekly, stealth appointments, throughout that fall, about all of the fears and anxieties I had about being gay. Fear number one, of course, was that by coming out I would cease to be me and instead would be a giant, pink triangle that would render me unrecognizable to those who I knew and loved. The counselor wisely had recommended that I visit some of the social and support groups available in Boston during my break, so that I might see how other people my age had integrated their sexuality into a larger conception of themselves and had done so without turning into big, pink triangles. And so I took the train into the city a couple times each week--off to explore, I’d tell my parents--and met, for the first time, out gay people. As winter break wore on, I decided that the time had come to tell my friends and family. And so I did. But I was so concerned about losing control of the process, of not being able to communicate everything I wanted to in the unpredictable world of a conversation, that I typed up letters to everyone--3 pages, single spaced, neatly stapled in the upper right hand corner. My M.O. for my friends was to bring them to a quiet space and ask them to read aloud the letter while I silently paced back and forth nearby. It was only after they had read all 1500 words of my coming out epic--words that included Lifetime-movie-of-the-week quotations like, “I was gay when we climbed Mount Washington together. I was gay when we partied at the prom. I was gay when we crammed for those awful precalc finals together. You. Just. Didn’t. know. It. I’m. the. Same. Person. I. always. Was.” For someone who spent all his time worrying about whether he was effeminate, I was quite the drama queen. I saved my parents for last. And indeed, the best moment came when I tried to carefully orchestrate my coming out with my parents. The night before break was to end and I was to return to Minnesota, my parents and I had planned to eat at a nice French restaurant in Newton. I had told them that I had big news. I had my trusty three page, single spaced letter and had bought each of them a copy of the book Now That You Know, which I put into separate manila envelopes. As we stood in the kitchen getting ready to go to the restaurant, my Dad eyed the manilla envelopes. He looked, too, at my recent crew cut. He looked at me and asked, “Danny, are you going to tell us you’re dropping out of Carleton and joining the army?” I love this story, this moment from the past, because I look back on it and think about how controllable the world can seem when you are younger and how experiences like this one teach us that we are ultimately beholden to forces that are beyond our control, like a parent who sees shorn hair, a bulging manila envelope, and thinks, “army.” My desire to tightly choreograph and engineer what my coming out would mean to those I loved completely backfired. Here I was, trying to manage my parents’ response to the news with 1500 word letters, books, and manila envelopes and careful timing, trying to express to my friends and family that this was no big deal, and I had succeeded at communicating that it was, in fact, a very big deal. What I took away from that experience, and from many of the experiences I’ve had as a gay person after leaving Carleton, was that identity is never as pure, consistent, or easily managed an experience as we might like. We’re fond of speaking of the “Carleton bubble,” a widely-shared sense of the College as a place detached from the pressures of the world, a refuge for the transformation of the adolescent into the fully formed adult. For me, that fueled the expectation that I could become who I was, settle upon a sense of what it meant, to me, to be a gay person, and to go off and lead a life that involved the fulfillment of that role. But I’ve found being gay, and your relationship to being gay, isn’t something that you announce and then leave behind. It’s something that grows over time, it twists and turns and bends in different directions. It becomes more salient in certain times of your life and almost invisible in other times. I never felt more exotically queer as when I moved to Bethlehem, Pennsylvania for my first teaching job out of Carleton and spent two years living alone in a city with no queer contacts, teaching at a school with no gay-straight alliance or out students or faculty. And I’ve never felt like more of a consumer demographic or niche marketing group or a cliché as I have been these past five years as a member of an American Studies Department that is populated with so many queer people that my advisor once quipped to me, “I just assume everyone is gay until I’m told otherwise.” My understanding of what it means to be queer, of who I am as a queer person, has been shaped, too, by the people I’ve been surrounded by. I left Carleton with a profound desire for normalcy, a desire that was reflected in my obsession with telling everyone, as I came out, that I was still the same person. Marriage was so important to me as a young adult. I can remember sitting in my classroom at St. Paul Academy and crying after school as I saw images of the first gay marriages in Massachusetts posted on the Internet, and the immense sense that my dignity was being affirmed. I watched the hand-wringing of straight friends who wanted to get married but felt guilty for doing so. I celebrated Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie’s declaration that they would not marry until all could do so. But my life after Carleton has also been blessed by people who have gotten me to question that desire for normalcy. In graduate school, I’ve met people who see marriage as a profoundly conservative institution, for whom the privilege of being queer lies in the fact that they will never be caught up in the immense pressures that heterosexual people have to conform to and perform certain social norms. Weddings, one of my grad school friends once told me, are like giant drag shows for straight people. But their doubts about the way that marriage has become the central focus of the gay rights movement is not simply a contrarian move, an adolescent resistance to conformity. They see marriage as an institution that has collateral damage not just for gay people, who are denied access to it, but for a world that makes a conjugal, romantic relationship a key element in achieving personal economic security. I enjoy having a foot in each of these worlds, being influenced by both of them. I’ve had the opportunity to attend gay weddings of friends in Massachusetts and even to officiate at a straight wedding in Minnesota. And I’ve had the opportunity to march down Hennepin Avenue in Minneapolis with a group called the Revolting Queers, an organization that does street theater in order to raise awareness about the pitfalls of a marriage-based gay rights agenda. What I’ve learned since I’ve left Carleton is that the intellectual principles my Carleton professors strove to instill in me, like the notion that truth is contested and provisional, apply to myself as well as the world of knowledge. I’ve learned to embrace and expect contradiction and ambiguity in who I am. To be OK with thinking, on one day, that legal rights and widespread social acceptance are the source of dignity and, on another, that dignity comes from a sense of self respect derived apart from social institutions and laws. For me, my indecision is what has led me to the question that I grapple with today as a queer person: “How do I carve out a space in the world that is in-between, that seeks the comforts of normalcy but preserves the pleasures of abnormalcy?” That, as I see it, is our task. You’re graduating at a fascinating and ambiguous historical moment, one in which we’re gaining the right to marry just as the marriage rate is, statistically speaking, at its lowest levels in U.S. history. Much lies ahead for us as a community and you as individuals. And I hope that as you venture out into the world, you’ll continue to turn to Carleton to think through the ambiguities and contradictions that define and will continue to define queer life in the United States. Out After Carleton, Carleton’s LGBT alumni group, is a great way to do that. OAC members will be passing out welcome cards to you tonight. I participated in the planning of the last OAC reunion, in 2006, and hope that I will see you all at the next reunion, in 2010. Congratulations on your accomplishments, seniors. And welcome to OAC.

Carleton is represented at LGBT college fairs around the country

By C.J. Griffiths ‘06
This winter, Carleton is being represented at a number of LGBT-oriented college fairs around the country. One was held in New York City, and another at the University of Southern California in February. If you know of similar events in your area and would like to help out, contact Naja Shabazz ’05 at: See the link below for more information:

Current students involved in an anti-violence project

By Patty Dana ‘11
TELL US YOUR STORY! RIGHT NOW! As part of QUEERTOPIA: The Anti-Violence Project, About Face Youth Theatre is transforming into a national story-collecting center. That’s right: we are collecting stories from everyone across this country—around the world. The young, the old. The urban, the rural. The fierce and the soft. Stories of VIOLENCE. Stories of LOVE. Tell us about a time you witnessed (or were a part of) an act of violence or love towards an LGBTQA-identified person(s). Email it to If you feel comfortable, let us know your name, where you’re from, and what generation you’re a part of. If you wish to remain anonymous, don’t include any of that! With the stories that we collect (and we hope to gather hundreds… thousands!) we will incorporate some of the over-arching themes and more specifics directly into QUEERTOPIA, summer 2010. Certain stories will also be sent to queer-identified and queer-ally-identified musicians around the country…and they’ll create songs based on your stories! Those songs will be incorporated into QUEERTOPIA as well! Then, with the stories we’ve gathered, we’re going to compile a packet and stage an event of hand-delivering them to legislators. It’s about time we took things into our own hands. Your story can make a difference. TELL US YOUR STORY. WE’RE LISTENING.

Call for Volunteers!

Would you like to be involved with a unique group of Carleton alumni, passionate about issues relating to LGBT students, alums, and friends? Out After Carleton is always looking for folks who would be interested in serving on the Leadership Committee. To learn more about what it entails, send an e-mail with your contact information to:

OAC Alumni Adventure Weekend Recap

By Katy Weseman ‘02
On Friday, November 7, 2008, a group of OAC alums gathered for an evening event in Chicago. Based around Reeling: The Chicago Lesbian & Gay International Film Festival, the weekend involved a lecture by Matt Bailey, Media Resources Coordinator at Carleton, titled "The Great Sissies of 1930s Cinema." Several of the OAC members in attendance enjoyed Reeling films throughout the weekend, as well as meeting up for dinner with a cinematic theme. The events were both educational and enjoyable!

OAC Alums Create Online Magazine for Families with LGBT Parents

By Rich Banyard ‘79
The volume of published resources for LGBT people continues to grow, especially in this age of New Media. There are materials for LGBT adults, LGBT children and parents of LGBT children. But what about children of LGBT parents? For them, an online magazine called Rainbow Rumpus ( has been created. Two Carleton alums and OAC members are involved in Rainbow Rumpus: Karen Ruth ‘86 is a volunteer copy editor, and Joan Higinbotham ‘66 is co-chair of the board of directors. I recently interviewed Beth Wallace '85, editor-in-chief. Since leaving Carleton, she has worked in early childhood education and in publishing. For about 10 years after graduation, her career involved child care centers in her native Vermont. Beth moved back to Minnesota in 1996 to become acquisitions and development editor at Redleaf Press, a St. Paul-based publisher for early childhood professionals. She left them in 2005, to become a free lance editor, writing coach, and life coach. Beth has worked on Rainbow Rumpus since its inception, in 2006. That allowed her to collaborate with another Carleton alum, Beth Wright '93, the managing editor. Beth Wright's other claims to fame include her work with Trio Bookworks and, last but by no means least, her role as co-chair of OAC. Two other Carleton alums and OAC members are involved in Rainbow Rumpus: Karent Ruth '86 is a volunteer copy editor, and Joan Higinbotham '66 is co-chair of the board of directors. Beth Wallace told a story about part of the impetus for the magazine. Publisher/Executive Director Laura Matanah and her partner have a son and a daughter. They live in a diverse neighborhood, and their children are used to seeing other queer families. But when they once saw a magazine depiction of another family with two mothers, their strong positive reaction made Laura realize how rare such media portrayals are, and the impact they can produce. Laura left her career as a grade school teacher to found Rainbow Rumpus, working full time on the project. The magazine has been published monthly since June 2006. The traffic has built up on the website, to the point where the magazine had 3,349 visits during the month of April 2009. As tends to be the case with online publishing, they have a worldwide readership, in somewhat of a crazy-quilt pattern. Their top five states for U.S. visits during that month were California, Minnesota, Arizona, Texas and New Mexico. Internationally, their top five were the U.S., Canada, China, the Netherlands and Romania. Their main focus is as a literary magazine. Professional writers produce the fiction content. Professional illustrators work on the site, including the drawing of the cartoon dragons, Flo and Mo. Non-fiction articles tend to be written by volunteers. All in all there are about 50 volunteers working on the project. The magazine has three main sections, for kids, young adults and parents/teachers/friends. Even those of us who are not parents can find interesting content in that third section. And, who knows? Maybe we'll sneak into the kids' section, as well; after all, who can resist a charming dragon? The staff's good work has been recognized. The Minnesota Council of Nonprofits gave the magazine its Dot Org Award, in 2007. Also, Laura Matanah was one of 10 teachers of the year, recognized by Curve magazine, for her work on Rainbow Rumpus. Most of their funding comes from individual contributions and foundation grants. Those sources are supplemented to a limited degree by advertising. On the parents/teachers/friends page, Mo the dragon will lead you to the link for contributions.

What Does OAC Look Like? A Membership Update

By Bob Geyer ‘67
From early 2008 to Spring 2009, OAC membership increased approximately 9% to 532 souls. Most of the increase was accounted for by recent graduates (classes of ’07 and ’08) but also included 14 members from earlier classes, ranging from ’74 to ’06. The Leadership Committee agreed to a careful but sustained effort to expand membership on recommendation by current OAC members, through selective notices in the Carleton Voice, and by targeting in the run-up to the next Family Reunion. Joining is easy online at the OAC website.

Call for Volunteers!

Would you like to be involved with a unique group of Carleton alumni, passionate about issues relating to LGBT students, alums, and friends? Out After Carleton is always looking for folks who would be interested in serving on the Leadership Committee. To learn more about what it entails, send an e-mail with your contact information to:

Leadership Committee Meeting

C.J. Griffiths ‘06
The Out After Carleton Leadership Committee met the weekend of April 19 on campus to reflect on past projects and initiate new ones for the upcoming year (some are detailed in other articles on this page). The meeting coincided with the annual Carleton Pride Banquet, which all members attended and thoroughly enjoyed. The Leadership Committee discussed a variety of topics, including recruitment and retention of members, the current campus climate, new campus initiatives, and a host of others. The Committee also had the opportunity to connect with other groups staff members, including the Multicultural Alumni Network, Richard Berman (Director of the Career Center), and Kaaren Williamsen-Garvey (Director of the Gender & Sexuality Center).

Save the Date! First OAC Alumni Adventure Weekend in November 2008!

Scott Dale ‘88
The Chicago Lesbian & Gay International Film Festival, the second-oldest of its kind, will occur November 7-9 of this year, and Out After Carleton would like to see you there! This will be a weekend to not only celebrate the best of queer cinema, but to bring LGBT alums, families, and friends together for great events in a city with endless opportunities. Hotel rooms will be held for interested OAC members, and there will be many events planned - further details will be disseminated later this summer via the next newsletter, by mail, and on the OAC website. Scott Dale ’88 and Katy Weseman ’02 are the Leadership Committee members helping coordinate the weekend.

Continuing Efforts on Out After Carleton Membership Outreach:

Bob Geyer ‘67
The Leadership Committee agreed at its April 2008 meeting that an even 500 members was a modest but appropriate new target for Out After Carleton. If achieved, this would represent a noticeable 8% increase in membership. Beginning in 2005, the 10% Campaign launched by the Committee actively worked to bring the number of active members up to its current level. Bob Geyer ’67 will work with the Alumni Affairs Office to target graduates from the 1960s and earlier, identifying the unique needs of these LGBT and allied alums, followed by later classes. Michael Lane ’08 will tackle the recruitment of members from the current graduating class, then join Naja Shabazz ’05 and C.J. Griffiths ’06 in identifying interested alums from 2005 and later who have not yet joined.

Update on LGBT Studies at Carleton:

Rich Banyard ‘79
During my student days at Carleton, I was never asked in a classroom to make up a drag name as part of an introduction to a course. That was one of the things that happened when Carleton offered an LGBT studies class during Fall Term 2007. The course was called “American ‘Queer’: An Introduction to Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Studies”. The course was taught by Aureliano B. DeSoto, who is the LGBT Post-doctoral fellow in Women’s and Gender Studies for the 2007-08 academic year. This was an interdisciplinary course, tracing the history of LGBT movements in the U.S. since the time of World War II. According to the Carleton catalog: “The course considers the consolidation of lesbian and gay identities before 1969, the Stonewall Rebellion, the divergence of lesbian and gay male subcultures in the 1970s, the AIDS crisis and sexualized lesbian feminisms of the 1980s, new queer activism and commercialization of lesbian and gay identity in the 1990s, and the importance and visibility of transgender identities in the new century.” DeSoto views the interdisciplinary nature of the course quite broadly. While he says that “the course foci are primarily located in social history, various types of literature or critical writing (manifesto, discourse analysis, personal memoir), with a small amount of visual culture”, he goes on to say that he tends “to think of interdisciplinarity in the way it is increasingly practiced in the contemporary university, which tends towards an inchoate melding of disciplinary traditions, practices, and methodologies, usually centered around the concept of culture (however one wants to define that) and discourse (ways of thinking, talking, and acting).” There were 22 students in the class, who were diverse as to their genders and orientations. DeSoto describes the course as being “run seminar style”, with emphasis on discussion that may be prefaced by, at most, what he describes as a “mini-lecture”. Those presentations were usually accompanied by writing on the board with concepts connected with arrows and lines, implementing his belief in visual learning. And, in fact, his academic training began in the Art field. DeSoto has a B.A. in Art (printmaking media) from Yale University (1990). He received his M.A. (1998) and Ph.D. (2000) from University of California, Santa Cruz. He began his graduate work in the History of Consciousness Department at UCSC. His thesis focused on Chicana/o (Mexican American) intellectual formation, in particular the role of lesbian and gay Chicana/o cultural producers in the development of ideas about Chicana/o identity. He was Director for the Program in Studies of Race and Ethnicity at Bard College (New York) from 2001 to 2005. Since 2005, he has been on the faculty of Metropolitan State University (Minnesota), as an Assistant Professor in the Department of Ethnic and Religious Studies, from which he is on leave to undertake the Carleton fellowship. DeSoto maintained a weblog during the term, which can be accessed at: Students were encouraged to keep their own blogs, which can be accessed via links in DeSoto’s instructor blog. DeSoto advises that the instructor blog will remain archived, but the student blogs may or may not be accessible as time goes on. Mark Lofstrom, ’76, a planned giving officer in the Carleton Development Office, and a former OAC co-chair, audited the course. He describes it as a “fulfilling and interesting experience”. Lofstrom says there were several assigned readings that were part of longer works or anthologies, but “the one entire book assigned to the class was Martin Duberman’s Stonewall, and we spent a week talking about this iconic but relatively little-understood event in LGBT history. I found Duberman’s account an engaging read—a lot like literature, but tended to agree with some others, including the instructor, that a more detailed analysis of the riots and their context in the broader movement is contained in David Carter’s later book, Stonewall: The Riots That Sparked the Gay Revolution, which wasn’t assigned but which I also read.” Lofstrom also fills us in on details of the drag-name exercise that I refer to above. “Just combine the name of your first pet with your mother’s maiden name. Sometimes, the results are quite amusing.” Another OAC connection is that the course is financed in part by a grant from the Endowed Fund for Academic Programs in LGBT Studies (APLS Fund), which was established in 2004 by OAC participants Tom Polgreen ’76 and Mel Rushton. DeSoto notes that “baccalaureate colleges tend towards a strong individualism, and therefore have historically been suspicious of ‘identity’ studies, such as LGBT Studies”. But, as he sees it, “we live, ultimately, beyond the college gate and within the larger world, where identities matter, sometimes quite a lot”. He considers the task of integrating identity studies into the undergraduate curriculum to be a challenge and a thrill. He gratefully acknowledges the support of alumni, and other members of the Carleton community, in creating the LGBT fellowship that brought him to Carleton.DeSoto says that, in addition to teaching the course, the fellowship has entailed “meeting with the department as a member of Women's and Gender Studies, attending relevant campus events (such as Esther Newton's presentation in the fall, or other programming on campus, such as the recent luncheon on Politics in the Classroom), as well as holding office hours and being a campus faculty resource for LGBT students.” Newton, who teaches Women’s Studies and American Culture at the University of Michigan, visited Carleton in October 2007

Third LGBT Family Reunion Held October 2006

The third LGBT Family Reunion was held on campus October 6-8, 2006. Featured convo speaker was Brown University Professor of Biology Anne Fausto-Sterling, who spoke about scientific aspects and political issues of gender and sexual orientation. She lunched with students and reunion attendees afterwards in Great Hall, during which she offered additional insights and answered questions. The reunion also featured a crowded panel discussion on racial and sexual identity issues. It was co-sponsored with MCAN (Multi-Cultural Alumni Network) and featured students and MCAN/OAC alumni. Other weekend highlights included well-attended presentations on LGBT issues in parenting, religion, politics, film, and the media, and a packed talk by alumnus Glenn Tasky ’80 about male same-sex relationships in Afghanistan. Pride Awards were presented at the Friday dinner to Carleton’s former Director of Alumni Affairs Joan Higinbotham ’66 P97 and current Technical Director of Geology Tim Vick (see separate story). The dinner on Saturday was followed by a very enjoyable cabaret/talent show with student and alumni performances. The final brunch on Sunday was capped by a lively discussion about current concerns and future directions for OAC. Overall, more than 100 OAC alumni and their partners plus students and faculty attended the reunion. Especially welcome and notable was the involvement of current students throughout the weekend.

Pride Awards Presented to Higinbotham and Vick

In recognition of their longstanding support of LGBT students and alumni and for their quiet championing of awareness about and solutions to LGBT issues at Carleton, Pride Awards were presented to Joan Higinbotham ’66 P97 and Timothy Vick on October 6, 2006. Both have also been important supporters of OAC. Joan served for 8 years as Carleton’s Director of Alumni Affairs. In that position, she oversaw the planning and execution of the first LGBT Family Reunion in 1998 and, with a committee of OAC alumni, helped plan and, through her office, executed the second LGBT Family Reunion held on campus in 2002. Tim, Technical Director of Geology, coordinates a newsletter sent to LGBT-identified former Geology Department majors. In addition to being an active ally in OAC and the proud parent with his wife Jean of a queer daughter, he leads the Northfield ‘chapter’ of PFLAG, some of whose members have offered accommodations to attendees at the last two Family Reunions. Pride Awards have been given in past years to Carleton President Emeritus Stephen R. Lewis, Jr. and to Ruth and David Waterbury.

Family Reunion Planning Committee

Special thanks to the reunion planning co-chairs and all the committee members, who helped plan a fun-packed event! Hardworking Roger Levesque ’77 and Catherine Estelle “Stella” Nelson ’04 served as co-chairs of the Family Reunion Planning Committee, which met once in person during February 2006 and then last spring, summer, and early fall facilitated and coordinated many aspects of planning for the Third LGBT Family Reunion. Other members of the planning committee were: Scott Hirose ’88, Danny LaChance ’01, Kathy Moran ’79, Mikki Unson ’02, and Jo Young ’96. Also working with the committee were Director of Alumni Affairs Becky Zrimsek ’89, LGBT Student Advisor and Director of the GSC Kaaren Williamson-Garvey, and OAC Co-Chairs Beth Wright ’93 and Mark Lofstrom ’76. Mel Rushton, husband to Tom Polgreen ’76, drafted a letter sent to non-Carleton partners of alumni urging these same-sex OAC couples to consider attending the Family Reunion, and many did.

2007 OAC Leadership Committee

The OAC Leadership Committee looks at ways that OAC can be effective in programs for and outreach to its participants and how OAC can best serve and interact with the College and other alumni organizations. Since it’s beginning a little over three years ago, the group, among other things, has directed attention toward the 10% Campaign to increase participation in OAC, looked at issues related to the Third LGBT Family Reunion, and examined financial aid concerns occasioned by instances of parental estrangement. Members are selected by the existing leadership to provide a gender-balanced representation of alumni across decades and by expertise. Each member serves a three-year term, which is renewable one time before the OAC participant must at least take a break from service on the committee. In addition to participation in twice-yearly meetings, each member is expected to play a leadership role for OAC in something consonant with OAC’s goals and current needs. Also, ideally, a student and a first-year alumnus/a will both serve as members of the committee on an academic-year basis, providing critical representation of current LGBT students’ and recent graduates’ concerns and experiences. C.J. Griffiths served on the committee as student representative during 2004-2005 and 2005-2006 and during 2006-2007 is serving as the first-year alumni representative. Julie Nicol serves as the student representative on the committee for 2006-2007. The committee meets on campus in April during the weekend of the Pride Banquet and convenes by telephone conference call each fall. The 2007 OAC Leadership Committee is comprised of Rich Banyard ’79, Cory Calmes ’95, Laura Clise ’01, Scott Dale ’88, C.J. Griffiths ’06, Mark Lofstrom ’76 (OAC Co-Chair), Larnzell Martin ’72, Julie Nicol ’07, Naja Shabazz ’05, Naomi Siegal ’80, Beth Wright ’93 (OAC Co-Chair), and Jo Young ’96. Concluding their service on the Leadership Committee at the end of 2006, with special thanks for their involvement with the group and their active support of OAC, were Jovita Baber ’90, Mike Estrera ’01, Scott Hirose ’88, Betsy McEneaney ’83, and Diane Quaid ’69.

OAC Co-Sponsors Book Groups

OAC successfully co-sponsored book groups with MCAN (MultiCultural Alumni Network) in Washington, D.C., and Minneapolis during September 2006. OAC participants in Denver got together for a book discussion as well. The groups met to talk about Covering: The Hidden Assault on Our Civil Rights by Kenji Yoshino. The book was one of the optional common readings for the third LGBT Family Reunion held in October 2006 (see separate story), and the after-hours meetings were an experiment to see how OAC might work with another college volunteer organization on an event of mutual interest. A shorter article titled “Covering” by Kenji Yoshino appeared in a January 2006 issue of The New York Times Sunday magazine and was one of two recommended common readings for the reunion. Yoshino claims that, thanks to civil rights laws, discrimination in American society now rarely occurs against groups; instead, discrimination mainly involves individuals who fail to ‘cover,’ or sufficiently “tone down” a stigmatized identity. The book and the article cite several lawsuits involving unsuccessful plaintiffs who claimed discrimination against them based on their race, gender, religion, disability, or sexual orientation. Yoshino is a professor as well as deputy dean of intellectual life at Yale Law School.

OACers in Seattle Enjoy Multi-College Alumni Event

In February 2006, OAC joined with Oberlin, Bates, Colby, Colorado (College), Macalester, Middlebury, Pomona, Reed, Swarthmore, and Whitman to hold an informal social event for LGBT alumni at Barca, a gay bar in Seattle. Here is an excerpt from the e-mail report about the event sent by Oberlin’s alumni office staffer Paul Wolansky: "Big kudos go out to Carleton's rep [Matt Fikse '87, OAC founder and former chair] who brought extra nametags, came early and did a great job meeting/greeting. I would say Carleton had the most folks show up . . . ." If you’d be willing to help put together an event in your city for LGBT alumni from Carleton and other liberal arts colleges, please let us know so we can explore options for staging a similar gathering with your help.

OAC Leadership Committee meeting:


Out After Carleton Leadership Committee met at the end of April 2006 to continue their work towards expanding and strengthening the network of alumni subscribed to the program, as well as to discuss ways to better serve the current students still on campus. Larnzell Martin '72 and Laura Clise '01 researched and drafted language to present to the College regarding issues of parental estrangement while attending Carleton. There was also significant planning for the upcoming Family Reunion in October, including possible events before and after the reunion itself.

(Written by C.J. Griffiths '06)

Endowed fund for LGBT Studies started:

Officially titled the "Endowed Fund for Academic Programs in LGBT Studies," the APLS fund was established in 2004 by Dr. Thomas Polgreen '76 and his partner Melvin Rushton. Programs are administered through the Women's and Gender Studies Program, and the dollars produced by the fund are used for things such as: bringing pre- or post-doctoral fellows to campus for a term to offer student courses and lead workshops for faculty, allowing current faculty to research issues and develop courses in the highly interdisciplinary field of LGBT Studies, and bringing distinguished lecturers to campus for programs of durations shorter than a full term. The fund is "open," meaning anyone can donate to it at any time. Gifts meant to augment the APLS Fund should be designated at the time they are made and are considered restricted contributions that do not "count" for Annual Fund credit. The endowed fund's establishment was announced at the fall 2004 OAC Leadership Committee meeting (see story below


(Written by Mark Lofstrom '76 and C.J. Griffiths '06)

Human Sexuality Endowment Fund update:

The Endowment Fund on Issues of Human Sexuality (commonly known as the Human Sexuality Endowment Fund) was established in 1993 through a generous gift from Ruth Harkison Waterbury '57 and David Waterbury, who wished to improve the campus climate for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) students. Since its creation, nearly more than 240 people have made nearly 460 donations to the fund. It is used to support a wide range of programs for Carleton’s LGBT community and its straight allies and helps all Carleton students to explore issues surrounding sexual orientation, affectional preference, and gender identity. This goal is achieved through funding for guest speakers, travel to conferences and events, the purchase of library books, social events, campus-wide awareness campaigns, and support groups. Examples of guest speakers whom the Human Sexuality Endowment Fund has brought to campus are artist Alison Bechdel, author of the comic strip “Dykes to Watch Out For,” Mel White, leader of the Soulforce organization who speaks to the experience of being gay and Christian in America, and Debra Davis, a transgender activist from the Twin Cities. The fund also supports the arts on campus. For example, in 2002, it was used for a student-directed and performed production of The Laramie Project, a play based on interviews with people from Matthew Shepard’s hometown, and the cost of scripts for Ntozake Shange’s play For colored girls who have considered suicide/when the rainbow is enuf. The Human Sexuality Endowment Fund has also paid for students to travel to events like the annual Midwest Bisexual, Lesbian, Gay, Transgender, and Ally Conference and the 2000 Millennium March in Washington, D.C., and for transportation to the Twin Cities annual Pride Month celebration. Finally, for the past four years, the fund has supported the LGBT retreat, which provides a space for LGBT and allied students to go off-campus, build community, and share their experiences. The Human Sexuality Endowment Fund is administered through the Gender and Sexuality Center, which addresses LGBT issues on campus as well as men’s and women’s issues. The center is located in the basement of Scoville.

(Written by Katie O'Connell '05)

First OAC Leadership Committee meeting:

On a beautiful November weekend in 2004, the newly formed OAC Leadership Committee churned through a 20-hour agenda designed to transfigure the informal, ad hoc group formed by 18 alumni at the '92 reunion, to a potent presence in support of students, faculty, staff and the College. It was the culmination of planning by OAC Co-Chairs Karen Peterson '76 and Mark Lofstrom '76, who also successfully petitioned in fall 2003 to have OAC formally represented on the Alumni Council (beginning spring 2004). After slogging through creation of governance rules, making laundry lists of practical applications & plans, and weaving pie-in-the-sky future dreams (cruises? scholarships?), the Committee was unanimous in its determination that growing the network was critical to success. "Sheer numbers are the key to influence, effectiveness and clout" said Jovita Baber, who is spearheading the 10% Campaign participation drive. The group will be launching its formal drive during Spring 2005, offering a smorgasbord of participant options ranging from "Count me in but don't even think about contacting me" to "I wish to devote every waking hour to OAC." They welcome as participants and supporters alumni, current students, faculty, and staff who can pass the alphabet soup litmus test: LBGTQF&A - Lesbian, Bisexual, Gay, Transgendered, Queer, and Friends & Allies who can be family, fellow travelers, partners, those in committed single-sex relationships and other well-wishers. Note: The 2005 meeting of the OAC Leadership Committee will be April 22-23, 2005, coinciding with the annual Pride Banquet, a highlight of Pride Month on campus.

(Written by Diane Quaid '69)

Student Climate Survey complete:

Leadership Committee members Laura Clise '01, Mike Estrera '01, and C.J. Griffiths '06 developed a student climate survey for current lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgendered, questioning, and allied students on campus. The goal was to evaluate what needs these students currently have, and how best the OAC alumni network could benefit them. Opinions varied across the board as to the culture across campus, but students were united in their desire to have more interactions with alumni.

(Written by C.J. Griffiths '06)

10% Campaign underway:

R. Jovita Baber '90 is heading up the 10% Campaign, which will work to substantially increase the number of Carleton alumni participating in the OAC network. After the Leadership Committee meeting in April 2005, the campaign will kick off with new outreach programs for contacting potential OAC members. Roger Levesque '77 is co-chairing the initiative.

(Written by C.J. Griff